Most psychological experts will cite anger as one of the vices that has led to the deterioration of many personal and professional ties. There are numerous instances of friendships gone wrong, spoilt mother-son relationships, failed marriages, et al. just because one party couldn’t manage their anger. In case you are worried you are on the highway to this same destiny, it is high time that you start following these basic anger management tips.
Take A Break
The next time you sense your temper rising, try to break off the conversation or situation that is angering you and step out. Taking a break from the person, incident or any reason that is causing the anger will help you cool down and handle it with a clear head. Walk out of the place, take a few deep breathes, try to get some fresh air and distract yourself with some other activity. Once you sense your anger has cooled down, get back at handling the problem at hand. Delaying is a better option than bursting with anger on the face of the problem. Ensure that delaying doesn’t mean indefinite postponement or forgetting about the issue.
Most experts have identified the inability to express oneself properly as the root cause of most angry outbursts. The next time when you are facing a difficult situation with your boss, spouse or children, try and explain to them your viewpoint of the issue. In case they are ignorant of it, then try expressing your grief and the fact that you are displeased in an assertive but toned down manner. This will help them understand your situation. Thus you will be able to refrain from angry outbursts and the issue can be solved easily.
Think Before You Jump
Most people end up doing stupid things (that they regret later) in a feat of rage. Numerous incidents of domestic violence, child abuse, or simpler ones like breaking objects happen as an outburst of anger. The next time you sense your temper is rising and you are the verge of committing one of these acts, take a moment off the issue and think about the ramifications of your act. You don’t want to hurt your loved ones or break an expensive house decorating item because you got angry. Taking this moment’s pause will ensure avoiding the occurrence of such ugly situations.
Bunk The Blame Game
When faced with a difference of opinion with another person, subjecting to blame game can be a taxing process on both parties involved. Blame games also happen to be vicious in nature, there is no end to it. The two of you can continue till eternity blaming each other and never finding out how you can address the issue at hand. Avoiding blame games will ensure that you accept the things that are beyond your control and look forward to solving them in a rational manner.
You should look into taking up mediation as an anger management solution. In case you realize that your situation is too far gone to improve by following these tips, try to seek professional help. There is nothing to be ashamed about it. A less angry you will be beneficial for your career, family and everyone around you.